All of these are the virtues of being a good man. How many do you follow? |
If you ever had a desire to start a wild brawl of ideas on the internet, there could be few better places to start than to question the accepted orthodoxy of toxic masculinity. But while some might shy away from a deep questioning of it, for fear of ending up in that brawl of ideas I mentioned earlier, I am nothing if not the sort who doesn’t give a god damn about offending people. I don’t fetishize the idea of safe spaces, or not saying something because someone may take offense to it. Obviously, I try very hard to not be a dick. But I do so based on a set of standards I’ve set for myself.
My standards: You say something, you should be able to back it up with facts and research. No one who makes a statement and then tells me to do the work of checking their hypothesis will ever be taken seriously.
Do not use absolutes. Never, for any reason, imply that an entire class of people possess one similar personality, or psychological, trait just because it makes your argument easier to make. It’s childish.
There, that’s the whole list.
Back to our story. Toxic masculinity is defined as the mores that make up the bad, and worst, parts of socialized masculinity.
Things like an excessively high lack of emotional expression, a defaulting towards violence as a need to solve problems, and sexual dominance are all things that have, at various times, been explained to be examples of toxic masculinity.
But, and this is a fear I find increasingly founded, what is a better way? Can there be one out there?
In this edition of the Rationalist, I move to answer that question, and explain how an archetype of cool from the era of World War II can give us all the answers we need.